When children begin to experience different life situations, it is very common that they begin to have contact with positive values of human relationships: friendship, generosity, empathy ...
However, there are also 'countervalues', such as envy, greed or evenvanity, that are also present in its development.
When someone is vain, we count on the fact that they worry excessively about their physical appearance, their qualities or abilities, and continually praise them in the face of others. Although loving yourself is something fundamental in life, it is true that overdoing it in this area can cause problems in personal relationships.
When a child is aware that he excels at something, it is important that he knows it and who knows how to reward himself, but it is also true that those who presume too much usually count after time with the rejection of the rest accused of feeling superior.
Although it is natural that when you know that someone is good at something, he praises it himself, there must be a balance so that neither the conversations nor the actions focus solely on what extremely positive of the person in question.
- Be clear about positive concepts: For children to control their vanity, it is necessary for them to be clear about the importance of knowing what they are good at, but that they know the limit between the positivity that self-esteem gives off and the danger of crossing the line. When they know they have to hold back on themselves they will begin to focus on their own humility.
- The importance of improving: So that our children are not conceited well with their beauty, with their ability to perform some activity or their high capacity to develop something creative, it is important that we make it clear that there can always be improvement, and that nobody is perfect, but mistakes are made and everyone has the right to develop what they are good at.
- The danger of compliments: Many times, we have to recognize that children would not realize that something they are particularly good at if everyone around them did not constantly remind them of it. Although it is good that children see reinforced what they are very good at, it is also necessary that not all family members, friends or teachers praise it in an outstanding way at all times.
- Empathy towards others: When a child is very good at something, or is constantly told by those around him that he has an impressive physique, this can lead him to believe that others are inferior. Empathy towards others is fundamental so that self-esteem does not pass to arrogance towards others.
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